How Intimate Are You? Find out how intimate you are with others by selecting the statements you feel most comfortable with. The results will not only reveal your level of intimacy, but will also tell you where you stand in relation to the general population. Required fields are marked * 1.I am open about my feelings with others. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 2.I enjoy close relationships with others. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 3.I enjoy it when other people share their feelings with me. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 4.I am afraid others will reject my feelings when I share them. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 5.When I am in a close relationship, I worry about the other person dominating me. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 6.When I feel I’m in a close relationship, I worry that the other person does not feel the same about me. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 7.Sometimes I worry that I put too much trust in others. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 8.I feel closer to others when we share our feelings. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 9.When I believe my feelings would hurt another person, I don’t want to share them. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 10.I am very critical of people in intimate relationships. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 11.When I find someone I am attracted to, I want to feel close to that person. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 12.I have a tendency to share my deepest feelings with others. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 13.When I am strongly attracted to another person, I do not like sharing my sexual feelings. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 14.When someone is attracted to me, I want to be close to them. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 15.I avoid being close to others because close relationships involve conflict. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 16.When I am attracted to others, I want close relationships with them. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 17.People in close relationships tend to stop listening to one another. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 18.I derive a great amount of satisfaction from relationships that are intimate. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 19.I seek out intimate relationships. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 20.Forming close relationships is important. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 21.I have no need to share my feelings and thoughts with others. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 22.Intimacy often leads me to see things in a person I find difficult to accept. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 23.I am usually accepting of most things about people I know intimately. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 24.I keep a barrier between my personal space and others. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 25.It is difficult for me to trust people who raise concerns about closeness and intimacy. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 26.Close relationships threaten my individuality. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 27.Losing control in an intimate relationship concerns me. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 28.I feel closer to a person when I am open and honest with them. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 29.If I was someone else, I would want to know me. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 30.I look for people who have the same interests as I do to be close to. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 31.When I reveal my secrets about sex to someone, I feel closer to that person. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 32.I can be as close to members of the opposite sex as I am those of the same sex. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 33.Often I want to become more intimate with a person who finds me physically attractive. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 34.It is difficult for me to be intimate with more than one person. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 35.I feel good when I am honest and intimate with someone. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 36.Most of the time I can see someone’s viewpoint. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 37.I need to know my self-control is working properly before I attempt intimacy with someone. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 38.I fight intimacy. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 39.Stories about people’s relationships have an impact on me. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 40.Disrobing in a group increases my sense of being close to them. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 41.I attempt to be close to and trust others. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 42.I believe people seeking intimacy have ulterior motives. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 43.One of the dangers of becoming close to someone is that you become more vulnerable to manipulation. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 44.Usually I am very private. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 45.Sex and intimacy are the same and can only exist in tandem. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 46.I need a physical relationship to be intimate. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 47.The expectations of others you are intimate with often decrease my fulfillment. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 48.I am willing to compromise to maintain an intimate relationship. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 49.Being physically attracted to someone makes me want to become intimate with them. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree 50.I know that intimacy conjures both good and bad feelings and I am willing to take the good with the bad. * Agree Disagree Neutral Strongly Agree Strongly Disagree